Learning to say no

Many girls agree to things they don't want because they're scared of upsetting someone. But your feelings count too.

• Keep it short: No, I don't want to.
• You don't owe a long explanation.
• Say it calmly and look at them.
• Repeat the same words if you have to.

A friend wants to copy your homework, or a group wants you to laugh at someone. To buy time, say: I need to think. Someone who makes you feel bad isn't a friend.

If someone threatens you or makes you keep a secret, tell an adult you trust straight away.